Happy Valentimes Day! Yes, Valentimes, you read right. I’ve actually heard people say that. If you know it’s ‘Valentine’s’, thank your sponsors for your education. I decided to find out the temperature on the Valentimeter ( I just made up the word) so I spoke to a few of my colleagues in school.
Honestly, my fingers are crossed on this post, I wanted to change it last minute but I’m trying to be loyal to those who gave up time to answer my questions. (Shout out to all my interviewees). I asked their opinion on Valentine’s Day, gifts they’d like to give or receive and how they spend the day. Here’s what I gathered.
For Lola, Valentine’s is a day to show people that you love them though there’s no need for a specific day. Although she believes the day is extremely hyped, she thinks “we should show love everyday and at every opportunity we get” and definitely expects gifts from her partner. “I’m human and want to be shown love. Since there’s a day set, I want to be part of it”, she said. She would love to spend Valentines having dinner with her significant other in a cosy environment with soft music playing.
On the contrary, Biyi has been out of the dating scene for a while so Valentine’s has been a normal day, but he’s “hoping something comes up soon.” A few years ago, he realised that people actually put effort into the day when he saw a couple, dressed in white and red, pushing their broken down car in the rain on third Mainland Bridge. So cute, but the car though…think Uber for a night out! He also thinks it’s a day to watch football especially for broke or single guys, because low-key, its just another day, without the additional expenses.
Mary said that love should be celebrated everyday, though she’s fine with Valentines day. Who’s going to complain when they’ll be showered with many good gifts? Wink wink. She feels that although there’s a show of affection in many relationships, cards and gifts don’t come everyday so its good to have at least one day for it.
Jeff thinks the day is useless, but not fully useless, because you can declare real love to your parents and do something for them. This brother clearly isn’t interested. He doesn’t see the need to have a specific day and feels no pressure about Vals at all because he’s single, instead he treats himself on Vals day. (Can I hear you say self love?) You cant be dulling when everyone else is having fun. An ideal gift for him is anything well thought of, as long as it’s not singlet or boxers.
To Larry, Valentines is commercialised, much like Christmas. He thinks it’s unnecessary, but with people’s busy schedules, sees the need for a specific day. “There’s pressure on guys because we all believe that they must get the girls gifts and all of that”, however he stated clearly that he would be the best gift to his partner and she’d be lucky to have him. “That day in particular she has all of me, my undivided attention”, he joked. A gift to someone special should be thoughtful, something that will be appreciated.
Ore doesn’t really care, he’s indifferent. He doesn’t feel any pressure around Vals day. Like Larry, he thinks it’s helpful for people in relationships, especially if they have issues to deal with. Regardless, he feels people should go as hard as they want to on V-day. Gifts are not a must in his opinion but “that’s the practice” so he’ll give gifts to his partner. For an ideal day, he’d like to be in the same space as his partner. Ore’s general advice is not make the day about sex only, love is beyond that. Y’all hear a brother preaching good?!
An anonymous interviewee thinks it’s overrated. “If you know you’re in love, you’re not waiting for a particular day to show it, you’re actively trying all year round”. He’s not a fan of Valentine’s but if his partner values it, he’ll definitely sacrifice for her although he said he wouldn’t expect any gifts back.
Did you enjoy it? I noticed the ladies didn’t mind the gifts and love specific day and the guys were more indifferent than interested. The one common factor from everyone was that love should be a daily affair. Unfortunately it’s easier said than done because we sometimes get caught up with work, school, life generally and ignore those around us till a birthday, anniversary or some landmark event. It shouldn’t be this way. The annoying thing about life is that all you know is what you have per time, you can’t be sure of another moment so it’s best to make maximum use of every single one.
All that being said, what are your plans for today (I’m eager to see your responses in the comments section). But beyond today, make intentional plans to show, give and spread love to your loved ones and more so to those who may be sad or going through hard times. Just brighten up your corner of the world as best as you can! Someone said “you don’t really give until you give someone that can’t give back to you”. Selah.
Love and hugs!