I have heard a lot about honour in the past six weeks and I’d like to share bit about it today. To honour a person is to regard them with great respect. It is recognizing that someone is ahead of you in some way and acknowledging it. You attract what you respect, so if you disregard it, then… Honour is not convenient. It is not applicable only to the man in a business seminar who might be the link to your next job. It is the more uncomfortable situations that truly test our ‘honorary character’.
As skilled and talented as we may be, we need men to rise to certain places. “My God will do it!” Yes, but He will work through a man. God cannot write you a job reference, give you cash or a room to spend the night, but He can turn the hearts of kings to favour you (Prov. 21:1) and cause your enemies to be at peace with you (Prov 16:7). Honour is important because where a person does not feel honoured, they cannot easily give of themselves. Even Jesus couldn’t do much because of dishonour (Mark 6:4-5).
If a man feels dishonoured, his hands would be closed towards you. It would be hard to receive anything from him. Just like gravity is a principle, honour is a principle as well. Gravity works, regardless of who understands the science behind it. The principle of honour works like this: you get what you give– it’s give and take.
Similar to how slay-dripping, moisturized, and oh-so-fine photos on the internet are captioned, “If I don’t give them, how will they take?”; let’s ask ourselves, if you don’t give honour, how will you take (get) it?
The Bible says to honour your father and your mother that your days will be long on the earth (Exo. 20:12). I believe this extends beyond biological parents. Some people were not raised by their parents or had other family members in charge of their upbringing. All those people would be included in the definition of ‘father and mother’. I feel like someone might be thinking I don’t know their parents and if I met them, I’d speak to God to give them a free pass on that Scripture. Well God knows your Mum and he knows how upset she gets sometimes and how your Dad yells for no reason, but He said what He said, and He’s not taking it back. The wisdom on how to honour a ‘difficult’ parent is to be sought in the place of prayer. Mother and father-in-laws, uncles, etc, they’re all included in parents. Let’s leave no stone unturned. It’s better to find out you overdid it, than that you shortchanged yourself.
In this day and generation, a lot of us are on the edge, we know our rights and want to enforce it. We don’t want anyone speaking down to us, and will not fail to give a piece of our minds if anyone tries to step to us, no matter who they are. This is all very good, but sometimes honour robs you of your pride and rights. It might upset you, make you feel cheated or upset, but it’s an exchange for something you desire to receive. Sometimes because of honour, you let things go, you hold your tongue although you have three possible clap backs prepared.
It starts from the little things like standing up in the bus for an older lady, because you too want to live long; not speaking negatively of someone in authority. I’m not saying you can’t hold leaders accountable, but you’re not to speak spitefully of them in the form of gossip. Most importantly, not to grieve the Holy Spirit in the ways that we behave (Eph.4:30).
I hope this is helpful. It’s really a collation of bits and bobs in my mind on the subject. One of the messages I heard recently was at a Women’s conference. You can find it on YouTube here –https://youtu.be/65YfymTj6mk